Goal setting is a dangerous proposition. Productivity is of great interest to me and, truthfully, I accomplish quite a bit each year, but I often suffer from the distraction of the urgent/interesting/fun over those things that could/would provide lasting life benefits and improve my quality of life if only I had the self-mastery to focus on them sufficiently.
As the new year dawns, I've been looking for atypical approaches to goal setting and ways to improve the art of lifestyle design. Here are a few of the best.
#1 Set Goals for the Life You Actually Want
Rather than looking at all the things you think you want to do, look at the desired end result and work backward. This is the same principle I teach in the homeschooling arena — end result desired, general, flexible long-term goals, yearly goals, etc. — so one I heartily endorse.
Read these three critical steps to setting the kinds of goals that actually motivate and move us forward.
[As an aside, if you're entrepreneurial at all and you're not subscribing to Fast Company, do it now. This is the most interesting, practical business publication I've found. I could link to a lot more great goal-setting articles they've produced, such as: How to Set Goals that Will Keep You Fulfilled and Focused; Making Resolutions Almost Always Fails; Try This Instead; Why Setting Goals Could Wreck Your Life; The Two-Step Process for Getting Your To-Do List Down to Zero; etc. Consistently good stuff.]
#2 Read Something that Moves You
If you're discouraged and out-of-sorts, give yourself a boost. Read something that motivates you and makes you want to dig into life again! Some ideas:
- The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology that Fuel Success and Performance at Work by Shawn Achor
- The Secret Life of Walter Mitty by James Thurber
- The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg
- The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch
- Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey
- Enjoy Life! Healing with Happiness by Lynn D. Johnson
- The Freedom Writers Diary: How a Teacher and 150 Teens Used Writing to Change Themselves and the World Around Them by Erin Gruwell
- Awaken the Giant Within : How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny! by Tony Robbins
- The Hiding Place by Corey Ten Boom
- The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck
What are the books (fiction or nonfiction) that have most motivated you to reach your potential?
#3 When a Goal Becomes Obsolete, Let It Go…Let It Go…
When I was 20 I decided that I wouldn't get married at least until I was 26 and had a master's degree. Period. Then I got married at 21 and after I walked through convocation and received my bachelor's degree, my plan got rather complicated by real life.
Still, I kept the master's degree in the back of my mind. Once Sam was hooded with the blessed PhD and was settled as a professor in a Florida university and I was raising three little girls, I revisited my old master's degree plan.
Upon serious evaluation, I realized that the only reason I wanted to get a master's degree was so that I could tell other people I had a master's degree. Given the opportunity cost and possible payoff (assumed credibility?), I decided it wasn't worth the price, at least at that time.
Often our goals shift and change depending on our circumstances. Pay attention to those life shifts and accommodate them.
#4 Use a Goal System
Let's face it. Some of us — I dare say most of us — allow the turbulent waters of life to carry as along haphazardly where it will. We are busy, always, but mostly putting out fires or doing the thing that is most boldly glaring in our faces.
Another approach is to live with purpose, with the end in mind, by forging our own path, not the path of least resistance. The proverbial road less traveled. That is never done by change, but by design. If you need help with the design, get it! The 100 Day Challenge is one such system. I've worked through the entire program myself and recommend it.
I have permission to give up old goals! Until I read this I didn’t realize how many goals were still on my list (every year, thank you) that I really don’t care about anymore. I just didn’t want to be a quitter! I feel a burden lifted. 🙂
Martina, I sooooo know what you mean! Sometimes our problematic behavior just needs to be explicitly pointed out to us for it be be crystal clear. Here’s to your new year!
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seeing all sorts of site changes in the past few hours. this one looks really good, the one with tan pink green gray. nice. dont know how you changed them so fast though.
Oregonian, haha, yes, I was just bored to tears with the yellow/aqua chevron thing. I tried out a new background and color palette I thought I would love and it caused seizures. Just hurt my eyes. So I changed the whole thing again. We’ll see how this one wears. What do you think about it?
My biggest design problem is that I love, love, love yellow. LOVE. And for the past few years it’s been yellow and bright green. Also orange. 🙂 So anything lacking in yellow is hard for me to keep for long.
Anyway, thanks for noticing. I love my theme because it makes major mods quick and easy.
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and this post was helpful too.
Very useful article.
Thanks, Samuel, and welcome!
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Hi Alison,New Year’s Resolutions were created by Satan in the Garden of Eden and have been tormenting man ever since. I posted a video on my Youtube channel that explains why this is so. See the video “New Years Resolutions” in the URL listed in the website box.
Also, another couple of inspiring books are:Understanding by Jane NelsonLearned Optimism by Martin SeligmanLastly, taking the path of least resistance is exactly how I live my life and it is successful, complete and fulfilling. I’m a mormon and fulfill all church opportunities to the complete satisfaction of myself, family and other members.Resistance is futile. When we surrender completely to Christ, we are carried as on wings of eagles. There is no try, no struggle, no opposition. If something becomes difficult, it’s an indication that it’s not the Lord’s will for me. Check out my video “The Lazyman and Mormonism” to understand how this seeming paradox is actually the fullness of the gospel. See John 3:8.