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The Post That Is Better Than This Post

This morning I intended to write a post about the church’s press conference Tuesday, variously hailed and/or jeered as calling for religious liberty, supporting LGBT rights, elevating institutional rights while denigrating individual liberties, making a press conference out of a molehill, “punking” the press with bloviation, etc.

Church Supports LGBT Rights

As it turns out, however, much of what I intended to say has already been addressed by Connor Boyack (president of Libertas Institute), in Supporting Property Rights Means Opposing Anti-Discrimination Law. Please take the time to read this.

Conservative Libertarianism

To be clear, I have opposed anti-discrimination legislation for decades (in the cases of individuals and private businesses, not government entities). I have done so on principle and long before gay rights was on my (or the general) radar.

I have done so even when the legislation would have benefited me and my family. For example, I oppose legislation that would require a private individual or business to rent to/associate with/provide for/give service to/hire women, whites, Mormons, gingers, Irish decedents, BYU graduates, or any other group to which I belong. Similarly, I oppose legislation that would require a private individual or business to rent to/associate with/provide for/give service to/hire Catholics, men, blacks, Jews, gays, Utes, brunettes, farmers, people who live in brick houses, or any other group to which I do not belong.  [click to continue…]


Church Asks for Feeback on Temple Garments

Now is your chance! The church has created a survey and is asking for feedback and suggestions about garment fabric, fit, and cut. Probably the best post I’ve read on the topic is If I Were In Charge: Change Women’s Garments (And Men’s) from Wheat & Tares. Head on over there if you want some practical ideas.

Then hop over to the garment survey and give your input!


BYU Should Take a Clue from GoDaddy

In 2007 I completed the arduous task of moving over 100 domains from GoDaddy to my new registrar, MyDomain. Every time I moved one, I sent a note to the administration that I was doing so because I would  not support their sexist and objectifying advertising with my dollars.

BYU Should Take a Clue from GoDaddy

I’ve written before that sexism hasn’t always been fully on my radar. I noticed blatant things (like my sister’s high school calculus teacher saying, “Why do I bother to teach girls math when they are just going to stay home and have babies?” (Orem High School, circa 1978)). But many of the “death by a thousand cuts” issues just passed on by as “normal.” (Because, well, they were.)

A couple of years ago I heard lip service to a change in the internet giant’s advertising, but I’ve been waiting for results. Today I read an article that describes the changes that have occurred within the company, not only in advertising, but in creating a general culture that is welcoming to women at all levels.  [click to continue…]


Feminism and Logic: a Primer

Dictionaries and Other Nice Things

At the risk of breaking the second commandment of church speaking (the first being refraining from starting any talk with, “The For the Strength of Youth pamphlet says…”), I’m going to start this post with a definition (I know, I’m sorry!):

Feminism and Logic: a Primer


  1. the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

Read it twice. Read it thrice.  [click to continue…]


The Salvation Equation

Evangelical and Mormon Grace

In Perils of Grace by Robert L. Millet (BYU Studies Quarterly Vol. 53 No. 2 2014 pp.7-19) the author summarizes his experience with the doctrine of grace especially from the standpoint of interacting with Evangelicals and the contrast between the Mormon and Evangelical perspectives on grace.

The Salvation Equation

In the article, Millet describes a common Evangelical theological approach to the concept of grace called monergism, that is, that God alone determined beforehand who will and will not be saved. He provides to those predestined to salvation the desire to be saved, thereby taking the choice out of their hands. (Sometimes called “irresistible grace.”)

The author also describes the contrasting Mormon theological approach as synergism, that is, God and humanity work together to achieve salvation. We cooperate on our salvation. God’s component is essential, but so is ours.

Millet makes a very telling generalization as well as providing specific examples that can be very helpful to Mormons, not only when interacting with Evangelicals but also in understanding the dynamics of forgiveness and repentance. His generalization is worth quoting:

My perception after almost two decades of interaction with Evangelicals—and it is a generalization, I freely admit—is that they have what might be called a very high view of forgiveness and a low view of repentance. That is, Evangelicals rejoice regularly in the power and beauty and grandeur of God’s forgiveness, and these glad tidings are sounded, even trumpeted, by all. That is as it should be, and Latter-day Saints could take a lesson from our friends. On the other hand, what I hear consistently is how important it is for us to reach up and receive the Lord’s forgiveness but not much on how it is to be received. Some have gone so far as to suggest that one of the reasons Evangelicals teach repentance so seldom is the fear that people may somehow begin to view their repentance has a work!

The result Millet outlines is that the “fruits of repentance”—or behavioral changes that follow true repentance—are often not well exhibited in the Evangelical population. The peril is a grace-based apathy toward repentance and faithfulness, since the outcome is sure. (This trend has carried over to some extent among Mormons who also choose to emphasize the merits of grace and assume little need for repentance. )

According to Millet that is not the most dangerous peril for most Mormons. The most dangerous peril (which some Evangelicals also charge) is that Mormons believe in a “grace of the gaps” that cheapens God’s grace. That is, we work to earn some significant percentage of our salvation and then Christ makes up the difference, that is Salvation = Grace + Effort. By earning we become too reliant on ourselves and not enough on God.  [click to continue…]


My Two Greatest Gifts

Caleb (11): Mom, there are two things I’m really good at:

  1. Hiding things in cunning ways so they will never be found.
  2. Moving quickly and silently; I’m so quiet it’s like I have a mute button.
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Today we celebrate the first day of 2015 and the 12th anniversary of Mormon Momma. We began as a hand-coded website with a manual blog. (Read that: posts pages were created and linked from the home page; comments were received by email and added manually to the pages (almost) daily. You can also read that: maintenance nightmare.)

Happy New Year 12th Anniversary

As the oldest active blog in the Bloggernacle (and the second oldest whether active or not, I think) we are so happy to have you around and contributing to the ideas and community.

May this be a wonderful year for you and yours!


4 Unusual Ideas for Your New Year’s Resolutions

Goal setting is a dangerous proposition. Productivity is of great interest to me and, truthfully, I accomplish quite a bit each year, but I often suffer from the distraction of the urgent/interesting/fun over those things that could/would provide lasting life benefits and improve my quality of life if only I had the self-mastery to focus on them sufficiently.

As the new year dawns, I’ve been looking for atypical approaches to goal setting and ways to improve the art of lifestyle design. Here are a few of the best.

4 Unusual Goal Setting Ideas
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Dealing with Negativity About Temples and Garments


Emily from Provo, Utah, wrote:

Hello sisters. I am going on a mission in March and just went through the temple a couple of weeks ago. I have some family and friends who aren’t very supportive and warned me all about it but I love the temple and I love my garments.

Dealing with Negativity About Temples and Garments

My problem is that my roommate is about to received her endowments (she is getting married between Christmas and New Year’s) and she is very negative about it. She wants to get married in the temple but she has heard the temple is sexist and she thinks the garments are dowdy and silly.

What can I do to convince her of the truth?

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Cheerleaders and Other Moral Outrage

Yesterday a friend posted to Facebook so repulsed by the NFL that he was threatening to boycott football forever. Hey, I’ve got football problems of my own. I get it. Here’s how my friend reached the tipping point.

Cheerleaders and Other Moral Outrage

Last February, pro football player Ray Rice (for those of you living under the bleachers) whacked his “fiancée” in an elevator, watched her pass out and collapse, dragged her out of the elevator, kicked her about a bit, forced her to sit up while she regained consciousness, and then milled about with his buddies to make sure any and all witnesses were carefully paid off.

Cracking down on domestic abuse (as the NFL is wont to do), the Ravens suspended the abuser for…two…games. (That’ll show him!)

In order to protect herself and all other women from creeps like Rice, Janay Palmer married the dude, refused to press charges, and got all pissy about the media coverage. (Double show him!)

Or something.  [click to continue…]