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Not Pretty

[While walking past the Museum of Art at BYU.]

Caleb (4): Mom, there is another sculpture!

Mom: Is it pretty?

Caleb: No.

Caleb: It’s handsome.

Caleb: Like me.

Caleb: When I was handsome.

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  • davidson June 4, 2008, 12:08 pm

    I feel your pain, Caleb.

  • Michelle D June 4, 2008, 1:50 pm

    Kids say the greatest things! I love it.

  • facethemusic June 4, 2008, 3:49 pm

    What a hoot!!

    This totally reminded me of something my son said about being handsome. I have little book I made of all the funny things he kept saying when he was little like your Caleb. I’ll just copy it here– it still cracks me up!!

    June 15, 1999 (so he was 3 1/2)

    A few weeks ago, I pulled out and played a video of the day Sara (his sister) was born.
    When James saw the video he said “Mommy! You and Daddy were so skinny! What happened to you?”
    I jokingly said, “It’s the strangest thing James. One day you’re skinny. Then you get married and when you wake up the next day, you’re fat!” He goes, “Really?” I said “No, sweety, Mommy’s just kidding. But it sure seems that way sometimes!”

    So then today, when James got himself dressed he came out and said “Do I look handsome, Mommy?”

    Me: “Of course! You always look handsome!”
    James: “Why do I always look handsome?”
    Me: (tongue in cheek) “Because you’ve got a good looking mom and dad!” Then I briefly explained how children inherit things from their parents and said “So, you got your good looks from me and daddy.” He replied with a simple “Oh” and went into livingroom to watch a show.

    A few minutes later, James came running into the kitchen striking a pose, putting one hand on his hip and the other up in the air pointing and shouted “Mommy! Mommy! I figured it out!”

    Me: “Figured what out, James?”
    James: “I figured out what happened to you and daddy!”
    Me: “What do you mean “what happend to me and daddy”? I don’t know what you’re talking about sweety.”
    James: “Remember you said the other day that I got my good looks from you and daddy? When I was born, you and daddy gave all your good looks to ME. So you didn’t have any left and you got fat!!”

    :rolling: :rolling: :rolling:

  • Michelle D June 4, 2008, 4:51 pm

    Face, that is hilarious!! What an astute boy!

    We used to wonder where our kids got all of their energy. Ray often says that the kids have sucked out all of our energy to feed theirs! Kind of like our good looks, I guess.

  • kiar June 4, 2008, 7:02 pm

    too cute! I love little ones! they are so funny.

  • Ray June 4, 2008, 7:17 pm

    Holy crap, that’s funny!

  • Stacey June 5, 2008, 5:01 pm

    That’s hilarious! Now I need to make a book of all the great things MY son says!

  • facethemusic June 5, 2008, 7:10 pm

    You REALLY should Stacey! They say the funniest things– and sometimes very wise and profound things. They’re things you don’t want to forget!! GREAT memories! And you want them to be able to read them when they get older. My kids get a HUGE kick out reading their little quote books.

  • Michelle D June 5, 2008, 7:37 pm

    I use notebooks, upstairs and downstairs, to capture these moments. One thing I’ve noticed is the younger kids tend to come up with some of the funniest comments, and older kids can feel a little overlooked when we’re reading the notebooks. So, Stacey, start a book to keep track, but continue adding things as your son grows up and if other kids join your family.

    Tracy, do you have a separate book for each of your kids? I like that idea. Mine are all together.

  • facethemusic June 5, 2008, 7:43 pm

    Yes, they each have their own. It wasn’t really an intentional thing. That’s just the way it worked out because at the time I started it, he was the only one besides Sara. And Sara doesn’t have any language, so he was the only one talking. So when Mary came along I started one for her, then one for Emma.

  • Michelle D June 5, 2008, 8:28 pm

    I’m new enough still to be clueless… Sara doesn’t have any language? Do you mind elaborating and sharing what seems to be inevitable personal heartaches and blessings?

    One of these days when I have extra time (yeah, right) I will have to add this as another project to tackle… compiling individual cute sayings books for my kids. Before I started using notebooks, I would grab paper, and even though I have a few file folders with papers in them, some of them are literally little scraps of paper. Boy, that would be fun and time-consuming to go through for each individual child!!

    My mom did a really neat thing for us on our 16th birthdays. She went through her journals and compiled our life histories as seen through her eyes. It is really neat to see my mom’s perspective on some of the compelling moments in my first 16 years of life, as well as some that seemed a bit insignificant to me at the time. (I wonder if she actually was able to continue this and do it for all of my younger sibs; I’ll have to ask her sometime. I know there are certain things, such as baby books, that my older kids have in more detail than my younger ones do…) That’s how I found out that if arranged marriages were still in place, my mom believes they couldn’t have picked better for me than Ray!

    I always thought I’d like to do that for my kids but #3 is 22 days away from turning 16 (yes, she’s counting!) and I haven’t done it yet… I’m also not as consistent a journal writer as my mom. Sometimes my journal is an email to family sending grade or activity updates on my kids. Oh well. I can’t do everything, right?!

  • davidson June 5, 2008, 9:51 pm

    Right! And give yourself a resounding pat on the back for the good things you ARE doing, Michelle. I have a daughter that is turning 16 in 72 days, so we are also doing the countdown.

    Face, podmate of mine, I have a daughter named Sara and a daughter named Mary. How weird is that? Of all the names in the universe?

    When each of my children was born, my gift to them was a journal with his or her name engraved on the front. When he or she said something funny or profound, I’d take two minutes to write it down in their journals. Can’t tell you how glad I am to have those now. They love to sit and cuddle with me and hear things from their journals, no matter how old they are. It’s something we do on a Sunday occasionally. We have a zillion family jokes that revolve around the entries in those journals. Tell you what, when a kid is a teenager, she needs to know that someone thought she was funny and smart and lovable and worth remembering. Heck, everybody needs to know that, come to think of it. A journal is a good way to prove that it was always so.

    Yes, Face, if it isn’t too hard, tell us more about your Sara. I for one would like to hear. Tell us the joys and the challenges.

  • Alison Moore Smith June 5, 2008, 11:05 pm

    Oh, my teenagers say plenty of funny things. But they’d kill me if I posted them on the internet…

  • nanacarol June 6, 2008, 8:55 am

    Alison, please post. It would be fun to see what teenagers say. and then you can tell them that are special too, just not always when they are Caleb’s age!!!! Secretly, they would love it!!!!

  • Alison Moore Smith June 6, 2008, 9:29 am

    No, they wouldn’t. They’ll only be funny to them in about ten years!

  • Michelle D June 6, 2008, 10:02 am

    Davidson, the personal journal for each of your kids is a neat idea.

    Perspective is an interesting thing. Sometimes NOTHING is funny to a teenager!

    My #3, turning 16, is Sarah. Based on text messages, stake dances/activities, and invites to birthday/graduation parties, she will have guys lining up to ask her out! This was SOOO much easier with my boys!

    My heart is flipping all over the place this year. Kids are turning 20, 18, 16, 13, 10, and 6. All major milestones! You know, it wasn’t so long ago that I was rocking and cuddling their little infant bodies, nursing them, and singing them to sleep!! I can still cuddle and sing and all that, but it tugs the heartstrings a bit because the dynamic is different! The flip side is I love that we can have some great conversations and share insights and see their growth and progress!!

    It’s all a part of parenting…

  • facethemusic June 7, 2008, 8:16 pm

    I’m new enough still to be clueless… Sara doesn’t have any language? Do you mind elaborating and sharing what seems to be inevitable personal heartaches and blessings?

    Don’t mind at all…

    Sara is our oldest– she’s turning 16 in September. She has a rare syndrome called
    18q- (actually spoken as 18 “q” minus). In a nutshell, she’s missing a part of the 18th chromosome. (You know how chromosomes look like an “X”? Her 18th one is pretty much like a “y”, because one of the little “legs” of the “x” is missing)

    Most kids with the syndrome function pretty near to normal– although they usually have a difficult time with spoken language (many use sign even though they can hear). They also frequently have some pretty severe medical issues.

    Sara on the other hand is almost the opposite. She was severely affected mentally and physically, but doesn’t have any medical issues. She’s really small– about the size of the average 4 year old, mentally functions between 8 months and 12 months old, and has no language and can’t understand it, either. So really, she’s like having a perpetual baby around.
    She also doesn’t have any mobility, no crawling, walking etc so she has a wheelchair. She’s only 41 pounds but she doesn’t support her weight and gets REALLY heavy, REALLY quick!

    She always happy and bouncy– she really is a joy. She’s always been spoiled rotten by all her teachers and therapists at every school and intervention program she’s ever been to.
    She REALLY IS like having a very happy, bouncy 10 month old around all the time!

  • nanacarol June 7, 2008, 11:09 pm

    face-you have loved her for 16 year amazing years!!! You have earned your angel wings for sure!!! Bless you. I am sure there are days you must not feel angelic!!!! You probably want to pull your hair out at times. How have you done this incredible feat HF has blessed you with? I admire your courage. I am sure you feel so blessed to be this angel’s mother. Keep up the good work!!!

  • Michelle D June 7, 2008, 11:34 pm

    Tracy, thanks for sharing that glimpse into Sara. I’m trying to picture my really small almost-6 year old as a functional 10 month old. Wow… Hope this doesn’t sound too flippant, but some days I wish my kids could be “happy, bouncy 10 month old(s) all the time!”

    I agree with Nana. You are courageous and angelic, and probably don’t feel that way all the time. You are likely doing what you have to do because you have to do it. Or you get to do it. It is what it is. What a blessing and a challenge! I am amazed.

  • facethemusic June 8, 2008, 11:58 am

    I am sure there are days you must not feel angelic!!!!

    Oh, believe me– Michelle sort of touched on this– my not-so-angelic moments come with my perfectly normal children! It’s EASY to be angelic with Sara, because SHE’s so angelic.
    It’s my OTHER ones who argue, disobey, destroy their bedrooms, call each other names, dirty the rooms I just cleaned up, etc who try my patience! While they’re arguing over who’s turn it is to sit in the front seat, she’s happily sitting in her carseat, kicking her feet and giggling at all the noise the other ones are making.

  • Michelle D June 8, 2008, 12:52 pm

    Yeah, I can see that happening! Which is why sometimes I wish my kids could stay in the perpetual 10 month happy, cuddly, Mom-is-astounding stage… Although I have to admit that I’m grateful my kids are able to grow and learn and become the usually-wonderful teens and pre-teens and kids that they are.

    Tracy, enjoy your angel! And continue to learn patience with the others! 😉

  • davidson June 9, 2008, 3:59 pm

    Face, thank you for telling us that. What a special young lady to have in your home! I am glad she is a happy girl. And what a wonderful attitude you have. My admiration for you grows. I think you have a lot you could teach us about making the best of a bad situation. Won’t it be wonderful to see Sara as a resurrected, exalted being? Probably more glorious than we can imagine.

  • Tinkerbell June 9, 2008, 6:22 pm

    I am just now getting around to reading this thread. I am glad I am not the only “fat” parent. :tongue:

  • kiar June 9, 2008, 10:08 pm

    umm, join the club! my three year old asked me if I will be fat till “all the babies come out?” AAAHHHH!

  • facethemusic June 10, 2008, 5:50 am

    Hey!! I kind of like that, kiar. I mean really, most people (the sane ones) don’t criticize a pregnant woman for putting on weight, right? So if we consider that we’re full of eggs, then we can legitimately claim that we’re carrying around all that life.

    “Hey!! I’m eating for approximately 2 million! Lay off!!” :shocked:

  • davidson June 10, 2008, 10:02 am

    Good answer!

  • Michelle D June 10, 2008, 6:06 pm

    I like that response, Tracy!

  • kiar June 10, 2008, 7:28 pm

    love it! I shall use it hence forth!

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